When Kelsey Ferguson found out she was pregnant with a baby boy, she was over the moon. After the couple married college sweetheart Scott in 2016, the couple had been trying for a baby for a year, and sadly Kelsey miscarried her first childhood for eight weeks. With the help of fertility treatment, the couple found out they were pregnant again in 2017. In a personal essay for Love What Matters, the mother explained how they were told at the 20-week check-up that their son had a heart defect and a chromosomal abnormality. which meant he was unlikely to survive the birth. She recalled the doctor came into the room and said I’m sorry, he’s incurable and won’t survive.
Scott and I said we would not give up and we would fight for this baby to his last breath. As a result, Kelsey had to go to the hospital twice a week for tests since the baby was so small. It was around this time that Scott began to develop body aches, joint pains, a nasty cough and a fever, but the couple assumed it was a cold brought on by his new job when they recently moved.
On June 4, 2018, Kelsey was hospitalized for monitoring and was told she would be initiated the following week. After Scott visited them that day, Kelsey and her friend admitted he looked pale and wasn’t himself. Overnight, Scott began coughing up blood and caught a cold by an ambulance that took him to the same hospital as Kelsey. Although initially placed in the ICU, Scott was doing well enough by mid-afternoon that he was moved to a regular room for monitoring.
I was able to be escorted out of my room to see him twice a day for a few hours on Tuesday and Wednesday, Chelsea said. He was still having a very hard time getting his oxygen levels up and was very frustrated when she didn’t hear from him on Thursday morning. Kelsey assumed Scott was still asleep, but she later found out he had been transferred back to the hospital’s intensive care unit. She explained I went down and they told me they needed to put a central line down his throat because they were going to do a procedure similar to dialysis where they would take his blood, clean it and put it back in.
Scott required a sedation for the procedure and his lungs were in much worse shape than doctors expected, meaning he would need a bypass. Tragically, the deceased suffered cardiac arrest during the operation. Looking back on the moment she was told, Kelsey said she immediately started throwing up beforehand, screaming, “Is he gone? Doctors tried to revive Scott for another hour and finally got a pulse, so he was quickly rushed back to the intensive care unit. At this point, Kelsey was told Scott was not in a stable condition and they had no idea what damage the cardiac arrest had done to his brain.
After talking to the doctor I was able to be with Scott for a while. I sat by his bed, held his hand and told him how much his son and I loved him, she said. The next day, Kelsey was trying to get some sleep in a waiting room near Scott’s when she received the devastating news that there was nothing more the doctors could do. I fell to the ground screaming. I threw up even more and couldn’t even believe it was real. It felt like a bad dream I was about to wake up from.
Even now it feels like it couldn’t have been real. After that, Kelsey rushed to his side and held his hand for hours. But after nearly fainting several times, her mother urged her to leave the morning. The mother-to-be later learned that her husband suffered from the autoimmune disease Wagner’s vasculitis. The day after Scott’s funeral, Kelsey was initiated, aware that now she too could lose her baby. On June 12, Kelsey welcomed baby Max Lee Russell. She added that he was breathing 2lbs 4oz on his own. He proved the doctors wrong and hasn’t stopped since. Maxley has a heart defect in a chromosomal abnormality, neither of which are fatal.
After spending the first four months of his life in the hospital, Kelsey was able to bring Maxley home in September, just three days after his father’s birthday. The following January, he underwent open-heart surgery. Although the operation itself went well, his condition worsened over the following days. And in a heartbreaking twist, he ended up on the same life support machine as his father. Amazingly, Maxley survived this time and Kelsey reminds her son every day how much his daddy loves him.
https://news.detroitdailynews.com/2023/01/25/i-was-told-my-baby-boy-wouldnt-survive-birth-then-my-husband-died/ I was told my little boy would not survive birth – then my husband died