Lilly Singh has learned a lot in her 33 years of life, but perhaps her most important lesson was one she learned over the past year: how to be happy. “I really feel like I’m the best I’ve ever been and that’s because I did the work,” Singh said for StyleCaster’s What She’s Having video series. “For most of my life, I’ve never thought about what kind of person I want to be. I never dissected any part of the trauma I went through. I never brought up the heartache I went through and I think that’s because as a kid you were so busy getting good grades and trying to find a career and all the things that everyone want from you that you do. I don’t think, ‘Am I happy? do i like what i do Do I even want this job? What about what I need?’”
She continued, “As an adult, I ended up thinking, ‘No. I’ll do the work and I’ll lay a foundation for my life and who I want to be and what I value. I have such a clear idea of what I want my life to be like right now.”
In StyleCaster’s April 2022 cover story, Singh explained how this realization prompted her to write her new book: Be a triangle: How I got from being lost to being in shape, where she talks about how her runaway success early in her career left her unhappy. “In this industry, especially for women, age is always at the forefront of conversations,” she said in StyleCaster’s April 2022 cover story. “I started to get into this mindset, ‘Oh my God. Will I ever break into this industry the way I want? Is the window closed for me?’ My friends would say, ‘What do you want to do?! You’ve done so many things!’”
Singh went on to explain how an aha moment a few years ago made her realize she doesn’t know what she wants in life. “I realized, ‘Oh, you don’t actually know what you want.'” she said. “You do vision boards with all these accolades, but you don’t know what feeling you’re chasing. You think these things will make you happy, but then you reach them and you’re just like, ‘Okay. On to the next one.’”
What she learned about it be a triangle, Singh told StyleCaster that she’s learned to stop placing her value on “external things.” “I realized that I place my value and purpose in many external things: my career, what my parents think of me, what people think of me on the internet,” she said. “I never put that energy into myself and what makes me happy. I didn’t know that was an option. I didn’t know you could work on yourself like that. We weren’t taught that in school. We didn’t have any tests on that.”
During her What She’s Having interview, Singh – who in 2019 became the first openly bisexual woman of color to host a late-night talk show – also spoke about the need for more TV shows and movies about South Asians in Hollywood. “Although [Never Have I Ever] was number one in 30 countries, I’ll still say it’s underrated in the sense that ‘why is there only one?’” she said. “And yet there’s probably only going to be one for a long time, and I’m sure if anyone ever puts on a show about a South Asian teenager, they’re going to say, ‘But there is I have never. No, we need so many more shows like this with this kind of cast.”
Watch the video above for Lilly Singh’s “what she has“Interview with StyleCaster. Check out StyleCaster’s April 2022 cover story Lilly Singh here.
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